Couples That Talk About Sex Have Better Sex.

Couples That Talk About Sex Have Better Sex.
It turns out the most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about how you feel and what you need in a healthy sex life.
Only 8% of couples who can’t comfortably talk about sex with one another say that they’re satisfied sexually.
When partners talk to each other about their sexual needs, their conversations are often indirect, vague, and left unresolved. Typically both partners are in a rush to finish the discussion, hoping their partner will understand their desires without saying much.
Below some great tips about talking about sex.
1. Be kind and positive
The key to talking about sex is not too criticise. If you do, the conversation will end faster than a “quickie.”
Saying “You never touch my body” is going to make your partner touch you less. Instead try, “Kissing last weekend in the laundry room was sexy. I felt so good!” Instead of “I hate it when you touch me there,” try, “It feels so amazing when you
touch me here.”
2. Be patient
Talking about sex can be uncomfortable. Due to our upbringing, many of us have shame connected to enjoying sex, much less talking about our needs and desires. If you or your partner feel this way, go slow. Start by talking about your feelings about sex, such as the messages you received growing up. Having that kind of conversation is a powerful way to enhance your feelings of safety with each other.
3. Don’t take it personally
I know this sounds counterintuitive because sex includes you, but a large part of what turns your partner on or off isn’t about you. Sex drive can be blocked by stress, feelings of shame, and so on. Just because your partner isn’t in the mood doesn’t mean they don’t find you attractive. Nor does it mean your lovemaking skill is bad.

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